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Reality of Friendships plus OOTD

the truth about friends

Friendships and friends can be the safest part of reality for a person and yet can also be the place that brings one the most pain and heart break.

“Best friend: A person who you choose to put your heart, soul and secrets in trust with.

The one person who even though may not be blood related to you

can be your pillar when all else fails and has the power to rip your heart out easily”

Back in primary school, I had a bestie that I did everything with – eat, play, we even had the primary school crush on brothers because anything else was just unacceptable. Everything was as fine as fine can be and my little innocent heart thrived on the friendship (being an only child I was alone a lot), until one day I got to school and found that everyone in my class were avoiding me and staring a little more than usual. Luckily for me (as a fine chubby head  girl) I never pulled the ‘Queen Bee’ stunt on my mates so it was not long till someone came up to me and told me that my so-called  bestie announced to the whole class that I was a witch. Did I hear you say what?!!! Now imagine my shock.

Yhup the wonderful beastie – what I started calling her after, understood the fact that at that time even as young as we all were we knew that being a witch was a bad thing and that the rumor would isolate me from the class and probably the whole school.  That was my first taste of betrayal and I knew I would not give her the pleasure of crying in her presence, so I proceeded to go about my day as normal. But as soon as I left school I burst into tears and cried all the way home.

My mum came to school the next day and made her take back her words but it had already made an impression on my young heart, and I knew then that I really did not want to feel like that ever again. Needless to say I did have close friends but never a best friend ever again. Friendships in reality are a bed of roses but then again even roses have thorns. The good friends have your back through thick and thin, good and bad and the bad ones unfortunately leave a scar.

“Twenty friends cannot play together for twenty years” Click To Tweet

You know the kind of friends that you meet and you just click and suddenly they are the first person you think of when something happens? Yes, the friends that get you so much but then someway, somehow as fast as you clicked you begin to drift apart and no matter how much or how hard you hold on it just won’t be the same again. I have had so many friends like that and honestly I am grateful for all of them. Some friends , as perfect as they might be are just for a time .As much as it might hurt not to talk to them again the memories of how beautiful it was while we were together would always be in our hearts.

A friend that stays at your ugliest, is a friend forever. Click To Tweet

Even as there are bad friends that leave a mark, there are also the good ones. I have friends of the opposite sex and same sex who when I was having issues were my strength. There was this particular time when I misplaced my wallet. I just came back to school from home with five thousand naira after serious hustling.

Somehow I misplaced my wallet but did not notice till hours later. I was confused, frustrated, crying and angry. Out of anger, I left my hostel and just kept walking. I then picked a bike to one of my friend’s apartment (which he paid for). Seeing my face and appearance (I looked crazy) he asked what was wrong and I tearfully told him the story. I remember him hugging me and making jest of my look.He then took me to the ATM gave me five thousand naira and took me out to eat.

It might seem like nothing but instances like this are what make you know how true your friend is. Emotionally, Physically, Financially, Academically friends are supposed to lift each other up. What kind of friend are you? What kind of friend do you have?

Outfit Of The Day

the truth about friends and an ootd

 

I am wearing leggings and a crop top and my new favourite sneakers because the best way to live is to love yourself first and be your own best friend first before you can then be another person’s. Complete yourself so that anybody else will add to you just as you will add to them.

I talked about loving  yourself and your body on my new post on “My thoughts:on the Thick trend” go and check it out.

On some level I do know I am sort of scared of being labelled “the witch” again but what is life without risk? So I will complete myself and open my heart to friends who will add to me as I will add to them.

*Looks up from writing to see the lecturer still talking. Goes back to writing*

Tell me…. Who is your best friend?

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The ‘Thick Body’ Trend|My Thoughts

body goals_the thick trend

 

 

Hi guys,I am here to share my thoughts on the latest body goals-the thick trend. If you are looking for tips on how to achieve a curvier body, sorry but this is not that kind of post. This is simply me sharing my sort of experience with the “every girl should be curvy/thick hype’ that seems to be rampant everywhere especially on Social media lately.

Honestly, whoever was responsible for the trend needs to be fed bitter leaf – in its raw form only, forever.

For those who have the body it’s a lovely thing, but what about those who do not have it? Many people have their self-esteem lowered just because the internet, fickle as it is, now favors females with a different body type.

You are beautiful.It does not matter whether you are tall,short,thin,curvy,black or white.Own your Sexy Girl! Click To Tweet

the thick trend_thick body goals

My Experience With The “Every Girl Should Be Thick IG  Trend”

I won’t lie for a while there, when the trend first came up I was as caught up as the next person in trying to get more fat in the booty area. I had guy friends who would come to me and start the  regular spiel “Seyi, when will your ass increase?’. And the ladies who would come to you with the ‘babe , why your ass just small like this -cue laughter’. Most times when they all say these things it seems to be a joke to them , but they make whoever is on the receiving end feel a little less confident about herself. Comments like this chip away at a hard earned self esteem till it wears down.

Crushing words from my crush

The incident that gave me the most drive to join the ‘thick body gang’  was a comment from my crush. I mean i had been crushing on my friend for a while but he kept treating me like a little sister. One day i see a message from him on snap-chat commenting on my video. Ecstatic that he sent me a message, i open it only to see “Seyi go and get thick for me now”. I mean, i’m  sure he did not think of how much influence that sentence would have on me. Thus started my ‘desperation fueled’ journey to researching every single way to be thick.

Having all this ‘so not helpful’ comments made me so into gaining fat in the right areas. Lukily for me somehow (I have to thank the fact that my laziness protested all the effort I was putting into it) I got back to my senses. So now I wonder how many ladies are still caught up in that web of not being able to love yourself and your body fully. Every female cannot have the same body type –genetics and whatnot. Society’s view about our bodies may have become hidden under the facade of ‘awon omo thicker body’ and I love that song so it’s not as much the song as the way it has now become the acceptable way to leave your perfectly beautiful body and do lots of things for the “thicker body” .

My Realization

ONE day I stood in front of the mirror and took a good look at myself, all the flaws and the perfection that I am and I realized that nothing and nobody should make me believe that my body as I am is not enough. If you cannot love yourself it is next to impossible for you to accept the love someone else has for you – big booty or not.

The first commandment for your body is LOVE YOURSELF. Click To Tweet

A Lil Advice

Going to the gym to better your body is perfectly acceptable but going the extra mile (creams and stuff) just to get curvier because of a trend is NOT. ‘Why exactly do you want the body change?’ Because if it is not solely for you then it is totally not worth it. If you are naturally blessed with the ‘thicker body’ please rock it and if you are on the other side of the spectrum, (the Lil booty gang) rock it with a confidence that cannot be bought. And if someone has a contrary opinion you can tell them where to stick it #wink.

Let us not come and go and kill ourselves. All booties rock!!!!!!

PS: in other news whoever knows a way to get me to stop eating so much junk so late. I can see all the junk I have been consuming go straight down to my belly and storing there. This means no crop tops for me #heart breaks into pieces.  Has anyone been in this situation before? Or am I the only one too lazy to exercise?

PPS: I finally got up the courage to go to the gym. It’s been a week now and it has definitely not been play play. who wants me to do a weekly review on my gym escapades? you would be surprised at how many funny things happen there.

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New Year New Goals

It’s a few days to the new year 2018 (somebody say yeah yeah) and there are a lot of things that we all want to do better or not do at all or start doing. I personally want to attend a lot of Owambe’s (I passed through 2017 without as much as one Owambe).Every year we as people tally our wins and losses and from all the lessons we learnt throughout the year, we put up a list of what to do to make the next year better and we then tag it ‘new year resolutions’, but the thing is, we can go back to our drawing board anytime not necessarily only at the end of the year.

I came across an article about how making a New Year’s resolution was setting yourself up for failure and I thought of doing a column on New Year resolution fails but somehow I diverted. But first let’s tackle why I think New Year resolutions are bullcrap.

#THE TITLE-‘New Year Resolutions’

Honestly, 90% of the problem is the mentality of people concerning the name. New Year’s resolutions are same as everyday goals the only difference being that they are goals for the start of a new quarter. Unfortunately people start adding goals to their new year’s resolution even from June…and I’m simply left speechless. Waiting to start a goal in the new year is simply procrastination(how about starting that gym membership in November, forget January).I have set in past years new year resolutions and I have found out that most times I barely achieve 50% before the year runs out.

#UNREASONABLE GOALS

Imagine me a student with no extra source of income setting ‘get a new car this year’ as my New Year resolution. Short term goals are the most practical method of setting goals. Even if you set long term goals (a necessary evil), break them down into short term achievable actions and have the determination to see them through. Every single goal you set should reflect your self-growth. What do you want to see at the end of the year? The student who set the ‘new car’ resolution could have set ‘ get a part time vocational skill’ and ‘start saving for a car’ as his/her goals instead. Goals are meant to be practical not fantasy.

Having said all that we all need to set goals that will help guide us to  our dreams this new quarter.as Earl Nightingale said “People with goals succeed because they know where they are going” so I have highlighted a few aspects of our lives to help us set important achievable goals.

GOD

Seeing the New Year is a blessing we should never take for granted. No matter what religion we practice or beliefs we have, getting closer to GOD should definitely top the list

FAMILY

Our family is our rock .as they say blood is thicker than water we should always strive to have better relationships in our families

SCHOOL /WORK

We all have big goals and big dreams but without a concrete plan and a determination to work toward it cannot be acheived.

  • In our schools set a goal for your GP and how you plan to achieve it.Barely passing is definitely not the best way to pass
  • In this day and age every student should be an entrepreneur. The rich are the ones with the ideas outside the box, nobody depends on their certificate alone now. Start doing something.
  • The best way to work is to work hard and be promoted. Set goals for how you want to improve your work ethics.

Dream big, work hard.no matter what your dreams are you need to know that without hard work that is all they would remain ‘DREAMS’.

PERSONAL LIFE

  • First I think should definitely be self-love. Self-love can never be over emphasized, no matter how secure you are in yourself you need to always have time to remind yourself of who you are, lift your self-esteem even higher and simply be proud to be who you are ignoring whatever society says.
  • We should also set goals that help us take responsibility of the things that happen in our lives.be in charge of your life, steer it where you want it to go.
  • Set goals to make you better. For example i will be exercising daily, or i will eat more fruits.

LOVE LIFE

The significant other in your life also deserves a new improved you. Look at your relationships how far you have gone, how far you want to go. Are there changes you need to make to make for a smoother relationship? This is what makes you a good partner.

If you pick all this and make a New Year resolution list, I definitely trust that with consistency and determination at the end of the New Year you would have checked off at least 80% of your goals.

I hope this post helped you out, if you have any questions or contribution just leave a comment and if you need any help you can also email me and I’ll be sure to get back to you.Dont forget to like this post and also follow us on all our social media handles.

Happy New Year In A Few Hours!!!!!!!

Lots of love from this side,

RUBIES.


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My Christmas Wish-list

Heyo guys, Issa few days to Christmas and for all of you who have done all your Christmas shopping and are ready to slay, I hail you. Those of us who are on tight budgets and cannot buy what we want, let us keep hoping for miracles.💁

If we were a little younger we would have at least made a promise card and given it to all the people we know, but since we are now older here is my wish list (a more mature type of promise card).

Feel free to let compassion fall on you and volunteer to buy one for me  🙇

First of all I will start with the Holy Grail of all wishes. If you have not wished for this watchu doing?

Let me just drop this here and hope for the best.One love. But for real, here are the things I would like to add to my wardrobe this Christmas/new year.

#1. Camo Boots

i saw this boots on @_thisisamina from @prettylittlething and instantly fell in love 😍

#2. Taos Inc. Lip gloss

I want this simply because lip glosses are life and @taos_inc has the best lippies.

#3. Tee from @urban_nativity_official

There is just something about the design that gets me.Do you like them too?

#4. Sneakers

This sneakers from @soma_consult is calling out to me…can’t you hear it?

#5. Oversize Shirt from @thenalegirl

Let us just accept that this shirts will make a statement that people will not forget in a hurry.

#6. Custom made Ankara bag and Shoes from @heseydesigns

This pair will definitely turn a basic outfit to a ‘who is that chick?’ outfit.

#7. Flat Shoes from @dkhay_empire

A must have if you wear corporate attires in school all the time….

#8. Backpack from @shopel0

If i had my way, i would buy this backpack in all the colors and it is so affordable too. Backpack with swagg.

#9. Hair

Honestly, hair is really important.Once you are rocking great hair ,you have no more worries.

#10. Accessories

Lately the shades and jewelry trend has had everybody rocking one pair of really nice shades or another so i will let you in on a secret.You can get your accessories for a whooping discount @allthingschic now.Better hurry they stop taking orders tomorrow for the holidays and even if you cannot get them now save up they still give really low prices without the discount.

#11. Jumpsuit

Let me hear you say yeah yeah! A jumpsuit in Army Green ,give me now!!!!!!

Get the look from @miskayboutique 

Also Camo Track pants from them just because

 

What do you want for Christmas? Put it out here as a comment and share the post, maybe, just maybe, Santa Claus will see it and decide you will get it. I will let you know if Santa  🤶  came through for me on the wishes after Christmas.

Also don’t forget to like if you enjoyed this post and follow us on all our social media accounts.

Here is to hoping Santa hears us,

RUBIES.

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My Top 10 Get-Lost-In Movies

Hey y’all movie lovers and even you guys that don’t really like movies. I put together a top 10 feel good and get lost in movie list, these are the movies that I can watch over and over again. Here you go…

#1.The Godfather

 

My first time ever of watching this movie was on cassette, I was very young but even then I couldn’t stop till the end.it will thoroughly capture your attention and fuel your gangster fantasies

#2.Big Mommas House (2000)

 

Best Action comedy movie of all time. If you have not watched this what are you doing? This movie will leave you laughing, teary eyed and gasping for breath. Definitely worth it

#3.The Wedding Planner (2001)

 

Where my sappy ever romance lovers at??Woot woot!!This one is a definite romantic comedy winner. It’s all ‘awwwn’s’ and ‘lol’s’

#4.Belko Experiment (2016)

 

I was forced to watch this movie by a friend, but once I started I was hooked.it is definitely action packed leaving you wondering who would die next (yeah it is that kind of movie)

#5.The Fault in Our Stars (2014)

 

If you have read the book you definitely know how emotional it will be (it does not disappoint).they surely played on every emotion-every tear, every smile, and every joy-all the ups and downs of love.

#6.The Space Between Us (2017)

 

The first ever boy on mars, a girl on earth, a bridge of technology, a sprinkle of love and voila! The impossible became possible. Very moving.

#7.Beautiful creatures (2013)

 

Witches, choices, love and teenagers. If you are a fan of fiction like I am, then this is one for you. A whole new world of the impossible.

#8.First Time (2012)

 

Let us take a minute to appreciate my celebrity crush ‘Dylan O’Brien’ aint that one fine piece of man candy

Okay enough of that. This movie is about high school students and their first time. It definitely is down to earth and highlights real issues of unreal expectations in a fun way.

#9.School Dance (2014)

 

BBBBig Booty Becky’…  Best best best high school movie of all tiiiimmmeee!!! You definitely need to watch this. There is something for everybody… and a lot of vices… #wink

#10.Chocolate City (2015)

 

If you have watched Magic mike and liked it then you will surely enjoy this. It is a winner for the ladies, a lot of six packs and v-lines.

Download the movies and let me know what you think. If there are any other movie recommendations you have drop them as a comment. Let’s trade movie preferences, might make someone’s day and movie stash.

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Signing out here,

Rubies.


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Who Is Rubies???|Hands behind LazyTrendyChic

Heyo my people!!!Today I am going to give you a sneak peek into my life. Here are 10 things you probably don’t know about me.

1. I am part Hausa (though most people say Jos is not Hausa).I hail from Jos on one side of my parent tree.
Note: I cannot speak a lick of the language.Somebori epp my career oo!!!

2. I would do drastic things for ‘beans’. Best food ever, if you know you know.

3. The ‘Lazy’ in ‘LazyTrendyChic’ mostly describes me.Darn too lazy to be thinking too much about what to wear.

4. For me Overthinking is an art form.

5. I have a monster of a sweet tooth. Insatiable and the size of Asia.

6. Hair color is my guilty pleasure (I have had to cut back on that though because of school)

7. Addicted to Novels. Fiction, Non-fiction, any genre, classics, I just want a good book to read.

8. I love writing too, that’s why blogging is quite good for me.

9. I hate liars and fakes. Being yourself is really the best you can be.

10. Celebrity crush…I’ll tell y’all in Camera #wink

Anything else you want to know? Drop your questions as comments or on my social media pages and I will be sure to answer them here next week. Kiss kiss.

Always your lil girl doing you know what
Rubies.


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A Letter To the Older Me

Dear Older ‘Seyi,

By now you must have outgrown the nickname ‘Rubies’ if you remember it but if you do, I can see the cringe you try to hide behind a smile when it comes up. You are probably thinking you could have thought up a better nickname (Got to say I do not think so), but I do not want to get your blood pressure up so I will just address you as Seyi.

Having kids and achieving your dreams really looks good on you and so does the glittering ruby ring on your finger. Looking at you from all the way over here, I cannot fully grasp how content you are, not just content but happy. Sure there have been potholes, everyone has to hit one at one point or the other but you have gotten through them and come out fine. You may look back and think ‘I had it easy when I was younger’, so I will remind you of how it was hoping you’ll be grateful at every point in your life.

At the early stage of your life it was all fun and games and your greatest worry was whether the ice cream man would show up or not. Then teenage years came up and insecurities became the order of the day. For a long while you battled with your identity, not just that but what your path was. Everyone seemed to have everything sorted out but you kept floundering…no clear direction. The journey to purpose was full of a lot of half-baked ideas, disappointments, pain, running to God when everything else failed. You cried a lot, so many times, over and over and at times it seemed nothing would ever go right. All you wanted to do was fulfill your duty and be happy but it seemed duty and happiness were worlds apart. You made so many mistakes that you can never take back, a lot of them leaving an indelible scar on your soul but somehow in the midst of that all you found purpose.

Do you remember now how much making your dream a reality with your blog cost? The sleepless nights awake thinking of content, the fear of making a fool of yourself? Pouring all your money into it and barely having enough to feed? There were so many doubts in your head and in the mouths of others, how you never gave up is a miracle in itself. So you did start “LazyTrendyChic” a project close to your heart with the help of friends, ones that will last a lifetime. All you wanted to do was make people see that the society’s pre-portrayed image of us does not have to hold true. Our first obligation should be to ourselves, to please ourselves and be comfortable in our skin before anything else and fashion was your medium. OH, the feeling of glorious fulfillment when the first stage of the plan was put in place and your blog kicked off. What joy! What happiness! The very reason all the sacrifices are worth it.

It is from this point in your life that I write to you dear older Seyi, I do not know where the tide will go from here or even if my dream will make it any farther but I have hope and a fierce determination and that is what keeps me going. I trust that what will be will be. Please do not forget what the ‘Ruby’ means to you….the fiery wrath of the gem, a strength unbending, passion as bright as flames, coolness against your skin…your calm in every situation. Forget not also, the pricelessness of the gem…you are worth the world.No matter what may come your way Seyi remember you are strong, you are flawed and perfect as you are.

I look forward to seeing you sparkle and light up the room even more than you already do.

Yours,

A younger more gullible you

Rubies.

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Outfit Challenge|RUFFLES?

Hello lovelies, In this post I will be pairing a top that was gifted to me but I have never worn (because the top has this ‘SU’ look).I was cleaning and I found it stuck at the back of my wardrobe so I gave myself a challenge to use the top in an outfit. Here is how I paired up my formerly forgotten ruffled top.

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Yours
Rubies.

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I Am Royalty|Accessories with class

I am a woman secure in the knowledge of myself, my beauty and my intelligence. My value as a female is not measured by the proportion of my waist to hips or how many men like me.My worth ass a person is measured on a higher scale: one of righteousness and piety. My self-esteem cannot be demeaned by the fickleness of society. I will ‘CORUSCATE’-to sparkle. The crown on my head and the pearls on my neck do not make me, instead it pleases me to wear them for myself not the society. I AM ROYALTY.

                                                       

Accessories and styling by https://www.instagram.com/esoarang/ on Instagram, for your one stop unique and affordable jewelry and fashion accessories.

Always Yours,

Rubies

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